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Anger management

Anger is a change in conduct to express that one should stop his/her behavior immediately and if he/she doesn’t, there may be a violent response. To show anger, animals make loud sounds, bare their teeth and stare. Humans also behave in similar manner when there are perceptional pains and decision to oppose is done. Physical altercation without the prior expression of anger by least one of the participants is very rare. Because we have language, humans usually have written and verbal sources i.e. written threats and verbal insults. Hence we may not perceive immediately physical threat, but can feel pain psychologically.

Anger can arise without a direct physical threat and without the actual person is present. We have capacity to imagine the remote future; hence the threat of pain can come from our imagination. It may not be based on anything happening in the immediate present. Humans have some behavioral norms related to social survival. If anybody does not follow these norms, other human’s anger arises e.g. not getting respect. This may break social or interpersonal safety rules. One may see that others are treated unfairly and have anger though he /she is not the sufferer. Hence, human beings experience anger empathetically.

Sometimes anger may result in physical action or shouting loudly. Everyone gets angry. Many people will react very quickly to the perceived pain. It may happen that some lose their coolness and hit the roof. The difficult part is learning what to do with these strong feelings. Sometimes it is important to get angry. Children will understand their mistakes if teacher is angry with them. But anger must be released in proper way. It is one and the same thing like; steam gathering under the lid will blow the lid. If such things are happened it is not good for anyone.

Solution will not come by taking anger out on others. Instead of that if you admit to yourself that you are angry and try to figure our why. You can talk with someone like a parent, relative or teacher. When you talk about your anger, those bad thoughts normally get vanished.

It is impossible that you will never get angry. But if you remember that how you act when you are angry will worsen or improve the situation, then you will not lose your control.